I am removing all names from emails, but wanted to share these powerful words that two sisters who have gone through so much loss, have to share. These words touched me in such a way I can't even explain. My best friend lost her baby boy when he was 7 months old. Read here for more about that story and how it brought us together as the closest of friends. The first email is from my best friends sister (I have gotten to know the entire family after all these years) who recently experience the loss of her own best friends daughter. The second email is my best friends response.
Hey guys -
Mom & I were having a conversation about why God takes innocent babies? Why does He give innocent babies to horrible parents, only to end up abused, neglected, and sometimes even dead? Why do wonderful parents sometimes loose their children?. I was thinking maybe our job as mere humans is not to figure God out or to know why He does what He does. Maybe it is just to trust Him no matter what happens. Period. We spend so much time & energy asking "Why?" yet we never really get an answer, do we? I think we just need to say, "OK. This sucks, but I'm still going to follow God & trust Him no matter what." After all, that's what true faith is - trusting when it's really hard.
There is a song out called "Blessings" by Laura Story. I posted the video on my Facebook page. It has been very comforting to me during this time.
Anyway, just thought I'd share.
(my friends sister)
And here is my best friend's response which is another email full of powerful words.
I love that song Blessings. We also have to remember that God sees death as a coming home, a beginning Of eternal life where as we see it as an end. God sees what we don't see
1 cor 13:12 says that now we only see in part but when we get to heaven we will see in full the why's.
We also live in a fallen world full of sin. No where in the Bible did God promise us a perfect life without sorrow. In fact just the opposite. John 16 Jesus tells us we will have troubles but His presence & peace will be with us.
When (her baby boy) died I came to a point when I decided I was not going to ask why because there is no healing there, but in trust & faith there is healing. I chose even when angry to go to God in my anger & in return I have been given peace. I feel that how can I ever Turn my back on God when God is My source of comfort & strength. The ability everyday to get out of bed & be joyful & face the day because whoever said time heals all things is a liar. I think sometimes time makes it worse, because you see all the things that are missing & all the things that should be. I should be signing up a little boy for peewee football, getting him ready for Fourth grade, (Her 12 yr. old girl) has (my 11 yr old girl), (her 7 yr old girl) has (my 5 yr old girl), (my 8 yr old boy) should have (what should have been her 9 yr old boy). Things like that. I don't know how I would get through these times without the trust & faith I have in God.
I read a devotion yesterday that talked about showing people your scars & your stories that through them other people believe & can receive healing. It really spoke to me because most of the time we try to cover up our "scars" & put a brave face on. It made me realize that I needed to be more open about what God has done in my life even if its hard.
I am also blessed with such a wonderful family!
Love you guys!
(My best friend)
I share their words in hopes of them helping anyone else who needs to hear them right now. Please share if you know someone who could benefit from them.